Confidence, where does it come from? Where does it go?
As Saturday's football result suggest it can be something of a will o' the wisp. Here today and gone in a momentary lapse of judgement by a referee.
How do we create confidence in ourselves? An obvious route is the acquiring of skills. To illustrate I remember a friend of mine who was apparently lacking in self confidence. I thought this till the day I saw him at his trade, taking command and moving the situation forward in a room of people who didn't have his knowledge.
The difference was simple acquired skills. In a presentation situation, confidence is a key and it is important to make sure that we have the skills of our particular discipline and presentation skills.
Well armed with these acquired skills we can face the world with confidence.
Where can we acquire these presentation skills... ah you're ahead of me.
Of more immediate note , given Wednesday's result has to be the question, how can we manage expectations?
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Thursday, 22 November 2007
Wednesday, 7 November 2007
Nervous - moi?
Nerves – you know you’ve got them
A seminar attendee recently asked if I had been nervous whilst speaking. Of course I was –‘well you didn’t look nervous’.
Was I pleased – you bet I was.
Much of coping with nerves is about coping with the outward manifestation of your nerves. If the speaker can create the impression of confidence this does much to promote an aura of control and ability. In turn these qualities make it easier to trust the speaker and buy into what he or she is trying to communicate.
On the other hand the speaker entirely lacking in nerves is potentially shaky ground. How many football fans have realised that their team are swaggering too much just before they go down to a lesser team (yes I am Scottish and I do remember Ally’s army- if you don’t drop me a mail and I’ll explain the reference)?
We shouldn’t be afraid of nerves themselves but the successful speaker must find strategies to control these nerves with a view to creating the aura of confidence, it may not be entirely real but to our audience it will be real enough.
Check out Coping with nerves on skillpresentations.com part of the Fundamentals course.
MG
A seminar attendee recently asked if I had been nervous whilst speaking. Of course I was –‘well you didn’t look nervous’.
Was I pleased – you bet I was.
Much of coping with nerves is about coping with the outward manifestation of your nerves. If the speaker can create the impression of confidence this does much to promote an aura of control and ability. In turn these qualities make it easier to trust the speaker and buy into what he or she is trying to communicate.
On the other hand the speaker entirely lacking in nerves is potentially shaky ground. How many football fans have realised that their team are swaggering too much just before they go down to a lesser team (yes I am Scottish and I do remember Ally’s army- if you don’t drop me a mail and I’ll explain the reference)?
We shouldn’t be afraid of nerves themselves but the successful speaker must find strategies to control these nerves with a view to creating the aura of confidence, it may not be entirely real but to our audience it will be real enough.
Check out Coping with nerves on skillpresentations.com part of the Fundamentals course.
MG
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